Why do men become distant after having a baby?
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You are nursing or holding a crying infant at two in the morning, bone-tired and raw, looking across the room at a partner who feels miles away even when he is sitting right beside you. The person who was supposed to be your co-pilot in this new world seems to have retreated into his phone, his work, or an impenetrable wall of silence. You find yourself searching why did my husband change after the baby or why do men withdraw after becoming fathers, heartbroken that the partnership feels weakest at the exact moment you need it most.
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