Why do men become distant after sex?
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You shared intimate physical connection expecting it to bring you closer, but in the hours or days that follow, he grows quiet, brief in his replies, or distinctly remote. You feel exposed, standing in the aftermath of vulnerability while he seems to step cleanly away. You find yourself searching why does he pull away after we have sex or why do men act different after sleeping with you, wondering if you miscalculated the entire interaction.
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