Why do men make conflict about their intentions?
Why Do Men — Understanding what men do.
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You bring up something that hurt you—a sharp comment at dinner, a broken promise, or a dismissive tone. You aren't looking for a courtroom debate; you just want him to acknowledge the impact of what happened. But within seconds, the focus shifts. He isn't listening to how you felt; he is telling you what he meant, insisting that because his motives were clean, your hurt is unjustified. You search why does he explain instead of apologizing because you are exhausted from having to defend your right to feel hurt.
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